1. Psalm 34:18
“The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit.” — Psalm 34:18 (KJV)When someone hurts you deeply, it can feel like nobody understands what you're experiencing. God sees the broken places that other people cannot see. You can come to Him honestly with your pain.
2. Psalm 147:3
“He healeth the broken in heart, and bindeth up their wounds.” — Psalm 147:3 (KJV)Some wounds are invisible. You may continue functioning normally while carrying deep hurt inside. God cares about those wounds too. Healing may take time, but you don't have to go through that process without Him.
3. Ephesians 4:31–32
“Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you.” “And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you.” — Ephesians 4:31–32 (KJV)When someone hurts you, bitterness can become another burden. Forgiveness does not mean saying the hurt was acceptable. It means refusing to let the offense control your heart forever.
4. Colossians 3:13
“Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any.” — Colossians 3:13 (KJV)Forgiveness can be difficult, especially when the wound is still fresh. You may need time to process what happened before you are ready to forgive. Bring that process to God and ask Him to help you release resentment.
5. Romans 12:19
“Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath.” — Romans 12:19 (KJV)When someone hurts you, revenge can feel tempting. You may want them to experience the same pain they caused you. But Scripture calls you away from retaliation. You can leave justice in God's hands instead of allowing revenge to consume you.
6. Romans 12:21
“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” — Romans 12:21 (KJV)What someone did to you does not have to determine who you become. You can choose kindness without becoming passive. You can choose goodness without ignoring what happened. Don't allow someone else's actions to turn your heart into something you don't want it to become.
7. Proverbs 19:11
“The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and it is his glory to pass over a transgression.” — Proverbs 19:11 (KJV)You don't have to respond immediately when someone hurts you. Give yourself time. Pray before responding. Think before speaking. A pause can prevent an emotional reaction from creating even more damage.
8. James 1:19–20
“Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:” “For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.” — James 1:19–20 (KJV)Anger is a natural response to being hurt. But acting while angry can make a painful situation worse. Slow down enough to decide how you want to respond rather than simply reacting to the emotion.
9. Proverbs 15:1
“A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.” — Proverbs 15:1 (KJV)If you need to confront the person who hurt you, your words matter. You can be honest without being cruel. You can explain your pain without trying to destroy the other person.
10. Matthew 5:44
“Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them.” — Matthew 5:44 (KJV)Jesus calls His followers to respond to hurt differently. Praying for someone does not mean approving of what they did. It does not necessarily mean restoring the relationship either. You can forgive someone and still recognize the need for healthy boundaries.
11. Proverbs 4:23
“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” — Proverbs 4:23 (KJV)Forgiveness and boundaries can exist together. You can choose not to hate someone while also deciding that certain behavior should not continue. Ask God for wisdom about how to protect your heart without allowing bitterness to take over.
12. Romans 12:18
“If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” — Romans 12:18 (KJV)You can do your part to pursue peace. But you cannot control another person's choices. Sometimes reconciliation is possible. Sometimes distance is necessary. Do what you can with honesty, humility, and wisdom, and leave what you cannot control with God.
13. 1 Peter 5:7
“Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.” — 1 Peter 5:7 (KJV)You don't have to carry the weight of what happened alone. Tell God what you are feeling. Give Him your anger, disappointment, questions, and fear. He cares about what is hurting you.
14. Psalm 55:22
“Cast thy burden upon the LORD, and he shall sustain thee.” — Psalm 55:22 (KJV)Some hurts become heavy because we keep carrying them in our minds. You may not be able to change what happened. But you can choose where you take the burden. Give it to God again and again when you need to.
15. Genesis 50:20
“But as for you, ye thought evil against me; but God meant it unto good.” — Genesis 50:20 (KJV)Joseph was deeply wronged by his own brothers. Yet his story did not end with what they did to him. You may not understand what God can bring from your painful experience today. But your hurt does not have to be the end of your story. When Someone Hurts You, Remember You are allowed to acknowledge that you were hurt. Bring your pain to God instead of hiding it. Give yourself time before responding. Don't make decisions purely from anger. Forgive without pretending the hurt never happened. Forgiveness does not automatically restore trust. Trust may need to be rebuilt through consistent actions. Healthy boundaries can be appropriate. You can seek peace without allowing someone to continue hurting you. Don't seek revenge. Be honest about your own part in the situation. Listen before assuming someone's intentions. Seek wise counsel when the situation is complicated. Don't allow one person's actions to define how you treat everyone else. Let God deal with the things you cannot control. Healing may take time.